Building your wedding guest list might sound simple, but we know it can get overwhelming fast. Between navigating family expectations, plus-one questions, and deciding whether to include kids, there’s a lot to consider. Don’t worry — we’ve got you covered!
Finalize Your Guest List 6 Months Out
As a good rule of thumb, your guest list should be set about six months before your wedding day. This gives you time to send out save-the-dates and make sure your nearest and dearest have plenty of notice to celebrate with you!
Start with Your VIPs
The easiest way to begin is by writing down the people you absolutely can’t imagine your wedding without — family and your closest friends. This core group will be the foundation of your guest list.
Decide on a Kid-Free or Kid-Friendly Celebration
This can be a tough call, but remember: it’s your day. If you prefer an adults-only celebration, that’s totally okay! Need help figuring out how to communicate that? Check out our blog post on how to politely ask for a kid-free wedding day.
Set Clear Plus-One Guidelines
Plus ones can add up quickly, so think about what feels right for you. Many couples opt to invite plus ones only if they’ve met the guest’s partner or if the couple is in a serious relationship. The key is to set a standard you’re comfortable with and communicate it kindly but clearly.
Handle Guest Requests with Grace
It’s not uncommon for parents or in-laws to ask if you can invite their friends or extended family — even people you might not be close with. If this happens (especially if they’re contributing financially), have an honest, respectful conversation. Let them know your goal is to keep the day intimate and meaningful, filled with the people who truly know and love you.
Keep Your Budget in Mind
Once your list feels solid, take a close look at your budget. Factor in costs for seating, catering, cake, and favors. If you’re over budget, revisit your list together and see if there are any cuts that would help you stay on track without sacrificing what’s most important to you.
At the end of the day, your wedding should feel like a reflection of you as a couple, surrounded by people who will make your big day even more special. Trust your instincts, set healthy boundaries, and enjoy this beautiful part of your planning journey!
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